Do you ever hear a little voice inside your head that says, “This isn’t going to work,” or “I’m not good enough, smart enough, or experienced enough?” Say hello to your rogue inner critic. That little voice wants us to always play small and play it safe, and when it speaks it’s very hard not to listen. Your inner critic is so personal that it often doesn’t even sound like a voice, It’s just there in the background. That voice is very limiting which means that too often we won’t ask for that raise, or try that new challenge because we think were not good enough or experienced enough to accomplish it.
The first step in dealing with your rogue inner critic is to acknowledge its presence. Then you will want to listen to exactly what it’s saying. Keep in mind your inner critic is a coping mechanism that was created a long time ago to avoid any and all pain. When it appears next say “Thank you for your support, but I can handle it from here.” Or, “Whatever, now watch this!” and prove it wrong (Especially effective if you answered completely true to the ELI Assessment question “Being right is important to me.”) Now looking back to the section where you listed three areas that you haven’t had success in yet: which were a result of listening to your rogue inner critic’s.
Ascanio Pignatelli is an employee engagement expert. He is an award winning speaker, seminar leader, coach, and author of the forthcoming book Lead from Need: Raising Employee Engagement from the Core. He is the founder of E3 Solutions, an executive coaching and leadership development group that helps executives develop the leadership and communication skills to create more engaging workplaces.